I met with a client this week who wanted to work through some feelings about an upcoming family reunion. She expressed that the family dynamics were sometimes difficult and she was concerned about all being together for 5 days in the same house. She had been thinking things like: “Why can’t everyone just get along for...
Did you know that there are different kinds of emotional pain? Humans experience both “clean” pain and “dirty” pain. Clean pain creates a cleansing effect. It helps you heal and needs to be felt in order to move forward, beyond the source of the pain. Dirty pain creates the opposite effect. It keeps you feeling stuck,...
The law of attraction basically says what we focus on tends to be what we attract more of into our lives. While there is no concrete scientific evidence that the law of attraction exists, there is some research to support an increase in success and happiness through positive thinking and visualization. Despite the lack...
Confidence is the feeling or belief that you can rely on someone or something, including yourself. I recently heard the following story about Oprah: She was speaking to an audience of about 17,000 people in Los Angeles, California. Her presence was brilliant and beautiful and wise, but the most memorable part of the...
The Merriam-Webster definition of clutter is “to fill or cover with scattered or disordered things that impede movement or reduce effectiveness”. The reason I like this definition is because it works for physical AND mental clutter (aka: overwhelm!). Why is clutter a problem you ask? Well, it depletes our valuable...
Fear prevents us from doing so many things. Sometimes it’s useful, a lot of times it isn’t. F.E.A.R. as an acronym has a few different meanings. You may have heard these… Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise The one I want to share has to do with our thoughts: False Evidence Appearing Real Our brains...
What are limiting beliefs? They are stories you tell yourself about who you are that hold you back from becoming who you are meant to be, or judgements about yourself that you think to be true and restrict you in some way. How do you tell if you have them? Think about the things you would like to achieve but aren’t...
You make dozens of decision on a daily basis. Some are big like planning an event, healthcare options for you or a family member, and making a big financial purchase. Others are small like which errand to do next, which phone call to make first, or what to make for lunch. When it becomes difficult to figure out...
My oldest daughter is getting married this weekend! It has been months of planning and looking ahead, but this week I just want to be present, enjoy all the moments and not think about what is next! (High School graduation for my next daughter ) I’m sure you’ve heard the expression “Stay present” and you might be...
Have you heard of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT? It’s a strategy where patients/clients are helped to develop coping skills, whereby they can learn to change their own thinking, problematic emotions, and behavior. The theory behind CBT is that our thoughts create our results, not what actually happens to us but...